With Craig's return, Grace again has a sparring partner. Oi. It seems from the moment he re-entered our home she has had his number, attacking at every turn. I end up intervening in their disputes, thereby emasculating Craig and encouraging Grace to abuse him even more. It's a viscious cycle; one that I would like to see end.
Under Nina's advice we are implementing a few new strategies (completely ignoring her, for one), and they seem to be working a little. I know that breaking patterns takes time. My jaw literally dropped when I observed how quickly Grace reverted to her old behaviors with Craig. With an 11 day absence, I thought that perhaps I could do a little re-programming. I was wrong.
She is strong willed. She's precise. She's assertive, independent, and bold. These are characteristics I admire, and at times, wish I could tone down. I shouldn't complain though because simultaneously she can be the most loving creature I've ever known. Her embraces are so tender. She lovingly cares for her sister and adores her dad.
What the world holds for her is unknown. I hope I can help her to find some balance. Life can be tough. She will likely take as many hits as she gives. We all do, I suppose.
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